Rory Feek is constant to talk out amid his family dispute over the care of his youngest daughter Indiana — and says a latest journey to fulfill along with his two older daughters didn’t go in keeping with plan.
Rory, 59, shared a weblog put up titled “canceled” on Sept. 17, almost three weeks after daughters Heidi, 37, and Hopie, 35, took authorized motion in opposition to their father, who they declare has reduce them off from contacting Indiana, 10, and put her in hurt’s approach (Particulars of the submitting stay confidential, as Indiana is a minor; the authorized proceedings stay ongoing).
The singer-songwriter — who in July married Indiana’s former teacher, a lady named Rebecca — wrote that he is aware of his household “isn’t good,” and that they’ve “all the time been a piece in progress.”
“There are issues that my older daughters and I have to work out collectively,” he wrote. “Proper now we’re at an deadlock on how that’s ever going to occur.”
Rory wrote {that a} week and a half in the past, he drove right down to Alabama, the place Heidi and Hopie reside, to try to hash out their disagreement.
“[I had] hopes that we would be capable of sit down and speak, or higher but, I’d simply sit and take heed to no matter they needed to say and possibly have the prospect to offer them a hug and not less than attempt to present them how a lot I really like them,” he wrote. “However although their vehicles had been within the driveway they usually had been inside, nobody answered.”
The musician stated he finally left the 2 bouquets of peace lily flowers that he’d introduced on the doorstep and drove again dwelling. On his approach again, he allegedly acquired a textual content from Heidi that learn, “We’re solely prepared to speak with you with a licensed therapist or legal professional or each.”
“That’s the place the deadlock is available in. They imagine that it’s the job of somebody with a doctorate, authorized or masters diploma to restore what’s damaged in our household. And I imagine that it’s our job,” Rory wrote.
Heidi tells PEOPLE she wasn’t dwelling when Rory arrived, however her husband Dillon and sister Hopie had been. Dillon says that upon realizing the unannounced truck within the driveway was Rory, Hopie started having a panic assault.
After a short name to each Heidi and to their lawyer, which they estimate took about 4 minutes, Dillon went to reply the door to seek out Rory had already left on the two-hour drive dwelling.
“Whatever the intention, it got here off as intimidating. We’ve set actually clear boundaries. We now have such a tough time speaking with him and feeling heard that we actually don’t really feel prefer it’s potential with no third occasion,” says Heidi. “[Visiting] was by no means for us, as a result of if he was attempting to achieve us, he would do it in the way in which that we’ve requested of him, or not less than textual content us and say, ‘Hey, I’m coming.’”
She additionally confirms that she filed authorized paperwork in opposition to her father earlier this month, and that Rory was served the day after he drove to Alabama.
In his put up, Rory alleged that he’s had occasions and writing jobs canceled within the wake of the household’s disagreements being made public, and that “individuals started to distance themselves” from him.
“Uncertain whether or not what they’ve heard or seen on-line could be true, and even when it’s not, they want to ensure they don’t personally get caught in any of the crossfire directed at me,” he wrote. “All that stated… I do not really feel canceled. I really feel the other of that. Whereas all this has been happening on-line, right here at our farm in our precise bodily lives, we’ve been having the best time settling into our new life as a married couple and household.”
Heidi beforehand expressed her frustrations along with her father in an open letter shared with PEOPLE and later revealed on Instagram. Within the letter, she wrote that she and Hopie had been attempting to achieve Rory offline “for months,” however that he had not been responding.
She included a screenshot of a number of unanswered textual content messages to her dad that had been despatched at numerous factors in July asking about Indiana, and likewise defined why she felt the necessity to have a therapist or legal professional current for any communications.
“The final time we sat right down to have this dialog, with no mediator as you requested, you advised us you had been accomplished being our father,” she wrote. “We forgive you.”
She added, “Our hope is that this letter will discover you, so you’ll be able to know the place our hearts are. Love is motion, not phrases. We forgive you to your unkind phrases. You known as us cowardly in your weblog put up for not dealing with you. We forgive you.”
Heidi additionally spoke at size of her considerations about Homestead Heritage, an “agrarian and craft-based intentional Christian group” that Rory and Rebecca are part of. A number of members previously have been arrested and charged with youngster abuse; Rory admitted there might be “a couple of unhealthy apples” in massive teams, whereas the group itself stated in a statement that “in each case of abuse we’ve ever encountered, it was our ministry that uncovered and reported the crime.”
“I actually simply need to have the ability to be in my little sister’s life and I can not,” Heidi tells PEOPLE. “I am attempting to do the appropriate factor.”
In the meantime, in his weblog put up, Rory stated that Indiana, who has particular wants, is doing “tremendous nicely,” and has just lately began fifth grade with Rebecca as her homeschool trainer.